Eating an Elephant How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. It’s easy to be impatient about wanting to change one’s life. This particularly happens when we have just gained awareness of what it is that needs…

The Whole Thing “He ate the whole thing.” Maybe it’s a good thing because there is something in the whole that deserves attention. The principle of the “Whole” is the fourth Natural Success principle. It is a natural progression from…

The Ultimate Whole Talking about wholes can be fascinating. If you begin from where you are, the first whole to consider might be you. The usual idea of the whole of you as a person is your mind, body, and…

Template for Life A template is a pattern used to make an exact copy. My fiancee uses a cardboard template to cut out a piece of paper that will cover the insides of a book. This way she doesn’t need…

Synergy In the thick of the NFL season, the spirit of teamwork becomes fairly apparent. Sometimes sports announcers will say the quarterback threw a perfect pass. On closer inspection, you realize that the receiver needed to do just as much…

Modes of Being I studied astrology some years ago and it helped me formulate four ways of operating in the world that I like to call, “modes of being”. Here they are: thinking, feeling, doing, and accepting. Each mode has…

Life Stages The phrase “I feel a change coming on” usually signals transformation in one’s life. After all, change is really the only constant in life. No matter how small, circumstances are constantly evolving. The key to a successful life…

Areas of Life I spent my New Year’s eve quietly at home in Kailua listening to the rain. After it was over, it seemed incredible that just three blocks away houses were being flooded in. I never saw any of…

To and Fro One of my client’s first wife was too intense for him because of their frequent confrontations and arguments. His second wife is much more agreeable and they generally get along, but he is still unhappy and bored…

Paradox What is paradox? A comic might say, “a couple of M.D.’s”. It is fascinating and awesome to me that life is so paradoxical. When I was twelve and my grandmother passed away, I felt so confused that we were…