When you’re single and interested in having a relationship, meeting people helps. The best way to meet people is by pursuing your interests. You do need to keep an eye out for bigger groups of people because if you’re out birdwatching, you might not draw a crowd. Join a club or go to a national convention to increase your chances.
Become a regular at a nightclub or restaurant where you really enjoy the dancing, the food, the ambiance, karaoke, or the music. You’ll get to know the personnel and it’ll become a regular “family” and network for you. If you don’t drink alcohol, nightclubs offer juices, sodas and “virgin” drinks. You do have to spend consistent time there to get to be known; be persistent, patient, and do have a good time.
People are around you wherever you go, whether at work or at play, but you may not feel comfortable just going up to a complete stranger and starting a conversation. This takes a certain level of self-assurance, self-esteem, creativity or just plain guts.
It’s funny, knowing that we can take this step, but that it’s not easy. Rejection is difficult to handle, yet it’s the quickest way to find out if someone is interested in you. That’s helpful because you don’t have time to waste with the people not interested in you.
You can use a whole array of different lines to break the ice with someone. The old standby is to introduce yourself, “Hello, I’m so and so”; then you can make a comment. Be yourself with whatever you say and you will then know how they really feel about you. You have to be assertive sometimes; if you don’t seize an opportunity to meet someone, you may lose the chance.
Have clarity about what you want in a mate and you will more likely find the right one. A friend of mine, who is now happily married, quickly asked a woman to marry him after only a brief acquaintance because he knew what he was looking for and didn’t waste time when he found her.
If you get discouraged finding a mate, you are trying too hard. Be secure in yourself, pursue your interests and get your life going. When you are single, the universe is telling you that you have other work to do right now. Work on yourself and on your life.
Focus on getting to know people rather than on having a mate. It will be helpful in business or as social support and you won’t give people a feeling of desperation that is often a turn-off. Above all, enjoy the process of meeting people. You’ll learn more about yourself and about people.
Be up to something in your life and you will be more attractive to others. This won’t hurt your happiness either because you’ll end up going somewhere and enticing others to be a part of your rich and rewarding life story.